Wednesday, July 23, 2014

week 22: saying goodbyes.


our four years in sweet home birmy have come to a close.  it's been an incredible four years of ups & downs & beginnings & endings.  blakey learned how to be an excellent physician.  i learned how to be a pasty chef & actually love my job.  we learned how to live in a city we knew nothing about.  we learned to make friends, truly amazing lifelong friends.  & we even learned how to be husband & wife.


the biggest life lessons i learned while in birmingham:

1. be selfish with your marriage.  learn to put your spouse & your marriage first before all of the other things that are in your life - work, friends, even other family.  it might sound rude, but it's so important to start there & learn to live out your life together.  i will point out a very wise thing my father-in-law said to me before blake & i got married: when marrying a doctor, you have to be ok with coming in second.  you are always his first priority, but you are going to come in second sometimes.  this is also a good thing to remember.

2. find an amazing group of married friends with similar beliefs about marriage.  i cannot tell you how lucky & blessed we were to find these amazing friends.  not only because they are each awesome but because we all understood how important our spouses were to each other.  it made it even easier to put our marriages first.

3. marriage is a choice.  a wise friend of ours once told me that the key to a good marriage is to wake up each day & choose your spouse.  sometimes it's easy & sometimes it's hard.  but it's always a choice.

4. even if you love your job, it's ok to love home more.  i always wanted a job that i looked forward to going to on monday mornings.  after having my dream job for the last three years, if you asked me if i'd rather be at work or at home, i'd choose home every time.  & you know what, that's ok.

5. please don't ever say "i don't have time" or "i don't have a choice".  you have time.  you get to choose how to spend your time.  & you have a choice.  just because you don't like your options, it doesn't mean you don't have a choice.  


four years ago, i never would've dreamed it would be so hard to leave birmingham.  this city with its beautiful trees & hills, its cool summer nights, its amazing food, its southern hospitality, & its incredible people.  birmy, you've been good to us.  


& because you know i couldn't leave this city we love without having a "final meal" {& telling you about it} - our last meal was at saw's.  a pulled pork baker with lots of delicious saw's sauce & the best fried okra there is.  technically, we ate our "final" saw's meal at least six or seven times, including twice in the last week. each one was absolutely incredible.


"you get a strange feeling when you're about to leave a place.  
like you'll not only miss the people you love 
but you'll miss the person you are now 
at this time & place 
because you'll never be this way ever again."


love love,
kjp.

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

week 26: happy birthday, blakey!


it was blakey's birthday this weekend!  the big 3-1.  old man :)  we celebrated with his parents in kansas city all weekend with lots of delicious dinners, including one of blake's favorite restaurant concepts - the brazilian steakhouse {fogo de chao}.  all the meat you can eat served on a sword?!  yes, please.  it was awesome & delicious.  we also went to an old kansas city favorite burger joint {westport flea market} & a delicious local frozen custard place {foo's fabulous frozen custard}.  so many birthday feasts! that's the best kind of birthday.


blake & dave also spent the weekend fancying up nora belle's nursery!  they installed a pretty white fan & built her crib!  {thank you mom & ray for the beautiful crib!}  she now has a place to sleep, a place to get rocked to sleep, & place to put all of her teeny tiny clothes.  it's coming together, nora belle!

 {the fellas hard at work}

 {LOVE her modern crib}


we hit the 100 days 'til mark this week!  & then we fast forwarded three days at our first OB appointment in kansas city - our new due date is october 21st!  little girl is growing right on schedule & has a healthy heartbeat.  we'll get to see her little face again in another week!  

love love,
kjp.

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

week 25: hello, cravings!


those pregnancy cravings everyone always talks about have finally begun.  a few relatively normal foods sound simply amazing & refuse to exit my brain like ice cream & coffee & sweet treats of any kind.  but one quite random, not something i ever eat, keeps popping up - taco bell.  taco bell??  really??  is that even food?  so one day last week, i told my husband of my random cravings, & he picked up taco bell for us for dinner.  sweetest man in the world.  & a delicious dinner it was.  hopefully, we can keep those not-really-food meals to a minimum.

oh!  my belly button is getting oh so funny looking.  it has squished itself into a little flat indented button with a nose on top.  confession: i have always disliked how my belly button looks.  it was this super deep hole my entire life, like a hole to the middle of nowhere.  so i was pretty excited about pregnancy changing it.  now... not so sure this is better!  it's certainly not worse.  it's a funny little thing, pregnancy.

& to make your day a million times happier, please watch this video of my wonderful nephew:

video

love love,
kjp.

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

week 24: fireworks!


happy fourth of july & happy 24 weeks!  this nora belly is growing bigger each & every day.  i am feeling her kick more & more, which is just as neat as it was the first time around.  she likes to party after i eat & just about anytime i actually sit down & rest.  it's so nice to know she's having a fun time in there.


blakey & i headed home to celebrate the fourth of july in oooooooklahoma!  the entire porter clan was there, including the adorable baby brooks.  we were so excited to finally meet the little man.  he's so long & skinny & happy to sleep most of the day.  & he has the most adorable little smile.  we are so excited to watch you grow, brooks wilson!



we also got to celebrate the fourth with caric & their little baby caric, coming january 2015!!  our little ones are going to be best of friends.  i cannot wait.


to celebrate parent-style, all four of us cooked up an incredible holiday feast - brats & sauerkraut & grilled corn & avocado salad & brown butter rice krispie treats!  it was oh so nice to spend the day with our wonderful friends.


& we bought a new car!  my first mom car.  can't you see me running around with all of the kiddos in this gem?  can't wait :)


love love,
kjp.

Monday, June 30, 2014

week 23: sweet home kansas city!


we're here!!  kansas city is our new home for the next three years, as blake begins his fellowship training in maternal fetal medicine, aka high risk ob.  we are so excited to be closer to oklahoma, closer to family, closer to life long friends, closer to sooner football.  we are thrilled to begin this chapter of our lives in which we learn to mom & dad, in addition to husband & wife.

{our adorable new home & first house!}

i'll catch you up on all things saying goodbye to birmingham, as i begin my new career of "homemaker".  that involves blogging, right?  


blakey & i are so incredibly grateful to all of our family who helped us pack up, move out, & begin again.  we've said it a hundred times but we absolutely could not have done it without all of you.  seriously.  so so many thanks.

{my sweet mom & me}

{dad & blake having man time at home depot}

happy to begin our family of three {ok, tanky, family of four} in sweet home kansas city!  ready to experience all that's next.

love love,
kjp.

Monday, June 16, 2014

week 21: blakey is finished!!!!


oh my goodness, blakey is finished with residency.  four years of extremely hard work & play.  four years of learning & growing & teaching & baby catching.  i am so proud of the man, doctor, & husband he's become.


to honor this great group of outgoing chiefs, we had an evening filled with dinner & dancing at the country club.  all eight chiefs were accepted to a fellowship program in his/her specialty, an impressive achievement.  well done, y'all.  well done.



it is so bittersweet to say goodbye to this place that has had such a part in turning blakey into the man he has become.  they've supported him & they've supported me so well over these years.  we could not have asked for more.  

{we're going to miss you, boone,
& your amazing tennessee orange.}


happy pre-father's day, love!  you are going to be an excellent dad.

love love,
kjp.